2.) Co parenting can be tough but success isn’t impossible.
Now listen, this is coming from a woman that despised the term, couldn’t even say it for the longest because I felt like it just solidified the fact that I was raising my child totally different from what I wanted. Here is where things can go left because oftentimes one person doesn’t want to part ways or both want to so badly that they are just ready to move on with their life and have nothing to do with each other at all. Again, this is why I emphasize that there is a vital need to separate your personal feelings from what’s personally best for your child. You have to get over the aspect of things not going the way you wanted them to once you see that they are not. At that point, as harsh as it sounds, your feelings don’t matter as much as what you do next to ensure that your child gets the best of both of you. Yes, it hurts, it will hurt and you will have to heal. There will be days where you feel overwhelmed and I’m not here to take any of that away from you because it’s real life things that you’re going to have to work through. It is okay to feel but you’re an adult and have the ability to control your thoughts and emotions. In fact, your child is learning how to control theirs by watching you. Accountability is what’s required here and there isn’t much room here for playing the victim so if you are then that’s one of the first things you need to work on. As a mother, please understand that in a lot of cases you will do more in terms of hands on care for your child but do not let that cause you to resent their father. What you have to understand is that you both will be taking something that’s meant to be done one way together and doing it “together” but separately. This will be a learning process and adjustment for all involved. Embrace that as part of your journey.