5.) Fitting in with family and friends
This something I once thought wasn’t as important, now more than ever I believe so. Prior to dating my fiancé, I was in a relationship where her parents did not accept me and there was a conflict. We fought and fought and fought because there was always friction. She always felt she had to choose sides. The first time I met my fiancé’s family I fit right in. I got along quite well with her grandmother who raised her and me and her dad hit it off. After reading my book he concluded that we were very alike and after hanging out a few times he was right. There were no red flags at all. I personally want the family’s blessing, I didn’t want her to separate from her family nor have the people who are most important in her life walking around with doubts. I am sure they have some things they may not like but overall it was okay. I even asked her dad for her hand before proposing to her. I did not want to enter a marriage full of tension.
There were a lot more things that made it clear to me that she was the one for me. Many little details such as clarification from God, our sense of humor, communication, her being supportive of my career etc. but I believe mostly everything else can be categorized in those 5 things I listed. Some may not, but I believe those things are priorities. I am in love with this woman and I know what I was missing out on before.