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If You Decided You Do Not Want To Lose Her

4. Be open with her. If you want to be with her, be with her.

If you want to do something together, tell her. That doesn’t mean she’ll agree, but don’t be prideful is she doesn’t. Tell her how you’re feeling. Be assertive, and for the love of everything, don’t be passive-aggressive. She doesn’t have time for that. Don’t be overly cautious. She’s not a porcelain doll and relationships need to learn to bend without breaking. She needs transparency from you.
So if you want to keep her in your life, at least to explore this thing further, ask yourself:

Is growth my priority? If not, can I make it so? (If yes…)

Am I willing to work on that physical and emotional connection? (If yes…)

Do I like who she really is, not who I think she is or want her to be? (If yes…)

Then tell her.

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This article has 4 comments

  1. Dan

    Paragraph 1: ” women tend to be a little more settle.”

    Did you mean, “women tend to be a little more subtile,” perhaps?
    Or was this meant to be a “subtile” inference, that women are inclined
    to “settle,” once the biological clock dictates so…

  2. Yve

    I meant settle as in maintaining position although not inactive. Like a cup of hot chocolate; there is a slightly thick, creamy layer on top, all the while the bottom is hot but unnoticeable. Women ( some women) tend to hold things together until they feel comfortable enough to share their feelings with their soon to be partners all the while the things they feel is boiling inside. I describe that as being settled, not settling because of some biological clock ticking. In a cup of hot chocolate, the thick, cool enough to drink, creamy layer on top lets you know that you can taste until the rest cools down ( a woman gives you hint to keep going while you are pursuing her) and the hot on the bottom being unnoticeable until time allows it to express its coolness.

    Thanks for reading!

  3. Bonface

    Quite educative. I like how you play around with words.

  4. Yve

    Bonface, thank you! I appreciate the comment.

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