How to Properly Slide into Her DM

4.) Aggressive & spammy is a turn off

Because of the lack of patience in most of us guys, and in the microwave-ready society like ours, we hate waiting for anything. Waiting on someone to reply usually frustrates us. The way guys react to this very thing, is usually what blows their chances. If she doesn’t reply quickly, don’t assume she may have missed it and build a reason why, sending her a second message after 59 seconds. I can assure you that many women aren’t waiting around to see if Mr. Right is going to slide in her DM’s. Give her time, give it a week or two if she doesn’t reply. There’s nothing wrong with sending a second message, but give the first one time to breathe. If the second doesn’t work, let it go. If you do decide to do another one, give those messages space to breathe as well, and don’t become the annoying guy who isn’t getting a clue. I would limit it to less than 4 messages. Trust me, whether she has 200k followers or 200, she sees it. People read their messages. People are on their phones all the time, so believe me, despite how much internet fame they have, they will read it. (Unless they are a busy entertainer or something)


5.) If she replies…

This is where you apply your “why.” Many men get messages back, but as I’ve mentioned before, their “why” is usually so childish, that they don’t get too far. For example, guys looking to meet her in the bedroom will betray themselves in their speech eventually. Your intent will show through conversation, especially when you’re a player, which is pathetic. Execute your “why,” let the conversation start naturally, operate within your intent, and take it slow. If you hope to build a connection with her and later become partners, this is a perfect time to start building that friendship. Keep the conversation within the DM’s long enough, and wait for her to offer her number, or find a good time to ask for it. Whatever you do, get established there.


Off to the races

Then try to do what is necessary to build with her, and see where things go…

Now, know this: you can win at this and still get the worst woman you will ever meet. At least you successfully slid in her DM’s.

Pierre Alex Jeanty is regular guy who sees things different from the majority. He is the founder of Gentlemenhood. A full time blogger, Author, social media specialist, health nut, Certified Life Coach and most importantly a disciple of Christ. Born in Port-au-Prince, Haiti now Alex resides in Lehigh Acres, Florida where he focuses on making a difference in this world.

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