Cater To The King In Him
I have read many articles of men explaining (to women) how they crave to be touched just like women do, they love a foot massage, they want their backs rubbed and heads scratched, they want to be nurtured and held just like women do. They are humans too, they deserve to be shown love as well. We live in a world where men are viewed as strong, tough, brave, and are not allowed to cry. I believe this is part of the reason men think women are hard to understand and are mysterious creatures that they can’t live with or live without. If men would appreciate the woman in themselves, then loving a woman to the point of understanding her would not be so hard. Yes, men and women are different. We are wired differently for many reasons. On the other side of that same coin, both sexes have interesting similarities that when combined can make living together and accepting each other possible. As far as crying, men can and do cry. I have seen men of all sizes and in all walks of life cry like children. After all, both sexes have lacrimal glands in their eyes that produce tears.
***disclaimer: I am not married and living with a man. My thoughts are based on other people’s stories and what I would do.
Back to catering to the king in your life, If you have a good, faithful, loving man in your life and you know it, you need to cater to him. Start by turning your house into a home. Home is where we all feel safe and peaceful. When we get there, we let go, we unwind, and become our complete self again. I know the world today no longer agrees with women playing their roles in the house, but a good woman lives in the world but is not of the world. She knows what needs to be done and does it. I am not saying that women are to be treated like slaves, but cooking and cleaning because you love your man enough to do that is not considered slavery. Slavery is when you are forced to do something outside of your will. Cooking and cleaning is part of holding down a house and maintaining a household. Make your home a place he looks forward to after a stressful day of work and the place he rather be even when work is not stressful. Welcome him home with a hug and kiss that tell him how much you have missed him and awaiting his arrival. Just like women like to hear, ” honey I’m home” when men are entering and ” I love you” when men are leaving the house, men like a proper response to that as well. Some people say things like, “honey, I am glad you are home”; others say, “I cooked your favorite meal, dinner is on the table”. Some couples have pet names for each other. If that is something you and your man are into, it is completely fine. Some are as original as babe, baby, sweetie, and honey. Others go as far as calling their men papi ( that is my favorite). Do and say whatever works for your personality and helps your relationship.
I will be the first to admit that women are talkative beings. Some are shy, but for the most part all women like to talk. Unless I am in a bad mood, I can talk for hours. Therefore, it is easy for us to become naggers. We have all been nagged at some point either by our parents, friends or others we have come in contact with and we do not like it. Nobody likes being nagged, so women try not to nag the men in your lives to death. If you have something to say, say it. No need to unnecessarily drag things on. We need to learn to say what we mean and be clear.
Sit behind him, rub his back, and give him a massage. You should help release his tension, not add to it. We have all heard the verse, ” do to others what you want done unto you”. Well, take that to an intimate level. You can touch him the way you want to be touched and hold him the same way you want him to hold you. After work one day, sit him down and give him a foot massage. Feed him a few spoons throughout dinner if he does not mind it. Whisper sweet nothings in his ears like he does to you. Tell him how you feel just like you expect it from him. It is always left to the men to make women feel at ease, cherish them, and treat them like the queens they are. If we don’t return the favor and treat the men in our lives like the king they are, who will?
Love your man, cater to the king in him.
***I know, I am full of disclaimers today. Ladies, please don’t try this with some man you are not sure about. What I am supporting here is women treating men who are treating them like queens like kings. Some men are still manifesting in their foolishness and have yet to discover and embrace the king in them. The ones who have embraced the king in them will notice your kingly treatment and reciprocate.