We live in a day and age where sex is more valued than love. Teens of this era aren’t doing the things teens like me were doing at the age of 10: trying to get our first kiss, writing love letters, and sharing each other’s jackets. Kids today are snapchatting nudes, trying to amass social media followers, and exchanging sexual favors. Of course, this doesn’t define every teen of today, neither was every teen when I was growing up, innocent. As it gets harder for many to live without falling easily to instant gratification and relying on sex as a mode of communication, there are those out there whose focus is solely to abstain from that lifestyle and wait for love. Let us take this moment to give a shout out to all the virgins out there,
whether it is choosing to do so because it is what is spiritually right, or it’s a personal choice without any influence. It is an absolute honor for me, a man with a sexual past, yet made the choice to be celibate and wait until marriage with my wife, to share some insights with you:
1.) It is crucial to build with someone who will be celibate with you, and honor that in the relationship.
One of the main ways that people fail to achieve their goal on this journey, is because they naively pursue partners who have no absolute desire for the same goal. When someone doesn’t want to do something, they will never put effort towards it. This means that a partner who doesn’t see eye to eye with you will easily try to influence you to do the opposite. We want sex, we love sex, therefore the greatest fight will always be to stay disciplined enough to say no. How much harder will it be to say no when the person whom you’ve developed feelings for, is begging you to say yes? This takes us to our second