If You Decided You Do Not Want To Lose Her


I found this on a friend’s page last night and decided to share it with you guys. It is one the simplest, yet effective blog I have read so far on this matter. I am sure that we all have felt at some point in our relationships that the woman or man in our lives gave up pursuing us once “they’ve got us”.  To me, relationships are like plants, you stop watering it, it stops growing. I always find the idea quite confusing when a man takes the lazy route after the have worked hard to get the woman they have pursued. My question is,  since you now have her, you don’t have to work to keep her? Both men and women play in a role in the pursuing process and later working to keep you process. A man’s way is a little more aggressive and women tend to be a little more settle.

Below is a blog written by Celeste Shea in regards to keeping her after you’ve gotten her. I personally think this can go both ways in different manners. Ladies you need to work to keep him just as he is to work to keep you.  I changed some words that I didn’t quite agree with or want my name attached to. So, if you have read the blog on a different page and notice a subtle different, that is why.


You have her attention and now she has yours.

You’re falling in love with her (yes, that’s what’s happening) and you sense a change.

You know she’s deciding if she’s going to continue to water this garden, or move on. You know she’s going to tell you soon because that’s how she is.

You suddenly feel the need to say or do something, but what?

The question running through your mind is: How can I keep her in my life?

If you’re the right one, the answer is simple. If not, the answer is: You can’t.


1. Make your personal growth your utmost priority.

She is a whole person and wants another whole person. She will not be your better half, your quarter, or even your third. She needs someone who has worked on themselves. That means you have done more than read a few “self-help” books. You have delved into your childhood in painstaking detail during counseling. You know what it means to ease into the discomfort. So, because you have done all this work, you have compassion for yourself, which means you will have compassion for her. (And others)

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This article has 4 comments

  1. Dan

    Paragraph 1: ” women tend to be a little more settle.”

    Did you mean, “women tend to be a little more subtile,” perhaps?
    Or was this meant to be a “subtile” inference, that women are inclined
    to “settle,” once the biological clock dictates so…

  2. Yve

    I meant settle as in maintaining position although not inactive. Like a cup of hot chocolate; there is a slightly thick, creamy layer on top, all the while the bottom is hot but unnoticeable. Women ( some women) tend to hold things together until they feel comfortable enough to share their feelings with their soon to be partners all the while the things they feel is boiling inside. I describe that as being settled, not settling because of some biological clock ticking. In a cup of hot chocolate, the thick, cool enough to drink, creamy layer on top lets you know that you can taste until the rest cools down ( a woman gives you hint to keep going while you are pursuing her) and the hot on the bottom being unnoticeable until time allows it to express its coolness.

    Thanks for reading!

  3. Bonface

    Quite educative. I like how you play around with words.

  4. Yve

    Bonface, thank you! I appreciate the comment.

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