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If You Decided You Do Not Want To Lose Her

2. Understand that emotional intimacy is as important as physical intimacy.

Don’t get me wrong, when you’re together, she wants you to touch her. Often. Hug, kiss, caress, and massage her, in the kitchen, on the porch, in the car, everywhere. Hold her hand. Come up behind her when she least expects it and put your arms around her and kiss her neck gently.

But just as important, call and text her. Send her emails and pictures. Share your life with her and respond when she shares hers. Have long conversations with her over dinner, by the fire, or as you take a stroll or sit on a park bench. Your lives should intertwine as much as your bodies. Don’t barrage her with messages or smother her; she needs space and has to attend to matters outside of you, but she wants to know you care about more than her skin. It will make her feel wanted.

You need to connect deeply with her—on all levels.

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This article has 4 comments

  1. Dan

    Paragraph 1: ” women tend to be a little more settle.”

    Did you mean, “women tend to be a little more subtile,” perhaps?
    Or was this meant to be a “subtile” inference, that women are inclined
    to “settle,” once the biological clock dictates so…

  2. Yve

    I meant settle as in maintaining position although not inactive. Like a cup of hot chocolate; there is a slightly thick, creamy layer on top, all the while the bottom is hot but unnoticeable. Women ( some women) tend to hold things together until they feel comfortable enough to share their feelings with their soon to be partners all the while the things they feel is boiling inside. I describe that as being settled, not settling because of some biological clock ticking. In a cup of hot chocolate, the thick, cool enough to drink, creamy layer on top lets you know that you can taste until the rest cools down ( a woman gives you hint to keep going while you are pursuing her) and the hot on the bottom being unnoticeable until time allows it to express its coolness.

    Thanks for reading!

  3. Bonface

    Quite educative. I like how you play around with words.

  4. Yve

    Bonface, thank you! I appreciate the comment.

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