“I’m one of those guys who believes that you need a strong woman in your life.” -Pierce Brosnan-
I think that to this point I have made something pretty clear, you should be unwilling to be any less of a man or a Gentleman just to make those insecure of themselves happy. You hold yourself to high standards and expect a lot from yourself. This attitude tends to make people who chose to be mediocre nervous and uncomfortable. So with that in mind, why would any Gentleman want to make a woman feel like she needs to tone down to make him happy? Why would any Gentleman want to make a woman feel that she needs to conform to him? If anything, he should respect any woman just as strong and determined as he is.
No woman, just as no man, should feel they need to be any less just because of someone else’s insecurities. The fact that the Lady has stayed strong in a society bent on breaking her is just as commendable, if not more, as the fact that you are a strong man in a society bent in breaking you. Society tends to label women like this with words like “Diva” or “B***” or “Bossy,” words that are viewed by many in a negative light. To me, these words are actually positive, as it shows a woman who knows what she wants in life and isn’t afraid to show it!
This is not a woman who will walk in your shadow. This is not a woman who will validate you because you need to feed your insecurities. This is a woman who has dealt with the insults and attacks of this world and stood unfazed. This is a woman who will walk her own path by your side, and stand toe to toe with the man you are. If you hold yourself to such high standards, why wouldn’t you want a woman who holds herself to high standards as well?
And it takes a strong man to be in a relationship with a strong woman. Fortunately that is one of the virtues of being a Gentleman, to be a strong man, a man who respects a woman willing to be more than average, a woman willing to hold herself up to higher standards and higher expectations for her life. And we are able to relate and understand as we do the same.
So let those who settle, settle. Let those who are threatened by determination and discipline shy away from strong women and strong men. It makes it so much easier to find each other and stand by each other that way.