When you learn to stop looking at being single as if it is a curse, you will be able to realize that singleness is a gift. It is an opportunity that you only possess while you are single, so you better find a way to enjoy it. Are there days when I feel tired of being single? Yes! However, on those days, God never ceases to remind me by bringing something to show me that maybe, just maybe, I am not quite ready for what I think I am asking for. When I hear other women talk about the lack of privacy, the level of tiredness that comes with taking care of husbands and kids after working a long day at work, I revert back to loving being single for the time being. Although I believe I am ready or that I feel ready to take care of a household, I can’t help but feel happy about being single when moms are complaining about being tired or having no time for themselves for weeks at a time. I know, it is not the same for every family. Right now, I enjoy walking into my condo and plopping down on my couch for however long I want without being disturbed. I enjoy the freedom of being single. I have the freedom to do everything I want, go anywhere I want, and spend however long I want in once place or another. I know some of these things may sound a bit selfish or that maybe I am enjoying my singleness a little too much, but that is alright with me. I am not selfish, I simply decided that I was not going to make myself miserable until my Boaz gets here.
Here are some things being single allows you to do that marriage does not or they are more difficult to do while married
1. Have more time to devote yourself to God
- If you are a Christian, this is exactly why I mentioned that being single is a gift. It allows you time to pray more, read your bible more and spend more time with God. You can add daily devotionals to your routine. You have time to yourself to read self improving books like the bible. Do you see why being single is not a curse, but an opportunity to find yourself, complete yourself, identify who you are in Christ? That way by the time you meet the man God has been preparing you for, he will not come to complete you or make you whole. He will not come to make you but to improve with you. Ladies and gentlemen, don’t waste this precious time you have. Find ways to make the best of it. This time will not come back again even if you happen to find yourself single again ( it will not be the same, nothing ever comes back around the exact same way as the first time).
- Scripture references; 1 Corinthians 7:1, 8 and 35, Hosea 2:19-20, Colossians 2:10