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Know When To Stand And Fight

It is true that there are times when we need to cut our losses and let go of the bad relationship that is going nowhere fast? A relationship that has a dark cloud hanging over our heads? There are times when we need to put our boxing gloves on and fight. Fight if you have someone in the ring who is willing to fight with you, or at least willing to jump in if you tag him. Don’t be so quick to “want out” for every little disagreement. Relationships are not roses and smoothly paved roads all the day and all night. Hard work, arguments, and heated discussions come with the package as well. The difference that determines whether you should fight or not is between constant arguments never reaching a solution that left you both without a common ground to stand on.  Healthy fights are proof that you are two different human-beings. The question is, should you stay or should you walk away? Personally, I say walk away if your good days don’t outweigh the bad. Walk away if you are on a never-ending track of an on and off marathon. Walk away if you know deep down that you are with the wrong person. It is the worst when people choose to stay in a relationship just because they don’t want to be alone. Be smart enough to fight for a relationship that is working and to walk away when necessary regardless of ending up single for a while.

If your good days outweigh the bad ones, chances are you’re just in rough patch for that time being. This is not a reason to assume you are not happy or that you need to walk away. In a relationship there are many things that will come in and ruin your day. Over time we will learn to ignore some of these things, but we are humans after all and ignoring is not always a first option. From forgetting to run an errand to not putting the kids to bed on time, life throw things like these at us not to separate us, but to make us stronger. I understand, there are things that are much worse than the two examples I gave. Some couples come across difficult things like cheating and lying. To some people those mistakes require leaving (hands down, no questions ask) and never looking back. I encourage trying to stay and fight if you can get to the bottom of the real issue and work at it from there. I am not saying lying and cheating are ok, but that there are times when they aren’t done intentionally. I know these things are terrible when they happen to us, but I can’t help but think on the other side of mind, that if a couple survives something like cheating and lying, your love will blossom like a flower in winter times and stand to the test of not only difficulties, but time as well. If you have not seen the movie “Fireproof“, I encourage you to ( it is on Netflix, YouTube, and Christian stores who sell movies). It gives really good examples of what to do when you reach a point in your relationship where leaving seems like the only option.Whatever it is that takes place in your relationship that brings the thought of leaving, take some time to think it over before deciding that leaving is the right thing to do. There are times when leaving is what should be done, but not always. Sitting down to think and talk about what had had happened will give both of you the time and evidence that will lead you to the right decision. Difficult things should help build our patience and strengthen our ability to not let life’s curve balls ( big or small) break us.

I am a 26 year-old educator on the run of becoming all that I can in the time that I have. A few years ago, I embarked on a journey filled with spiritual discoveries, healthy habits, and a passion for education stronger than I've ever had. Learning what to do to become a better person have always interest me. One of my passions is to know a little about everything in order to gain the capability of forming my own opinion so others won't have to do it for me. Another passion that was buried deep inside finally came to the surface and allowed me to see the adventurous side of me. I am on a journey to see the world and do things outside of my comfort zone. I will write all about it along the way!

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