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Let Love Find You

Have you ever reached a point where you feel like love got hit by truck on its way to you? You have been a “good woman” or a “good man” and doing things right, yet love never seems so distant. Let say you have spent time getting to know yourself, you are pursuing your faith, you let go of your past and allowed God to enter your heart and you truly believe He will meet the desires of your heart, but yet you feel like the one thing you really want is not happening. The human in you finds a way to feel sad that maybe love is not for you. Thoughts like this come and we have to be careful not to let them inhabit a place in our minds and in our hearts.  First of all, I know how you feel. I am human too and I have similar thoughts at times. However, it is important to keep in mind that love is for all of us. Love has many faces. Just because you are not experiencing intimate love with the person of your dream does not you are not loved in other ways. While you are patiently waiting, refusing to date just to date, cherish the ones God placed around you who love you unconditionally. This is a good time to learn what real love is. Time to love yourself and be ready for when love finds you. It is also time to love others in other ways besides romantically.

Let love find you

We can all agree that the best relationships we have been on are the ones we did not chase. It may be that these relationships no longer are, but that does not mean they were not good or that we did not learn how to love or something else from them. I met my ex on a night where the last thing on my mind was to meet someone. That night, I was going to a ball where I knew everyone who would be there and also knew ( somehow) none of them were God’s match for me. My ex was there with a friend I invited ( who did not tell me she was bringing someone) and that is how we met. There are times when I am going somewhere and thought maybe I’ll meet someone there. That night was not one those times. Now, I know you are probably thinking, ” well, you did not end up with him, so love still did not find you”. Love did not find me. Just because It did not last when we met that night does not mean we were supposed to begin a relationship. Again, love has many faces. It is not always that it will be intimate love with the opposite sex. And it is not that my ex and I did not love each other, we simply were not ready to love each other they way we wanted to be loved by a significant other.  My reasoning for telling a snapshot version of this story is so you can see that it is true, love will find you when you least expect it.

Let love find you

Love is so unique that it has to choose you. As much as we may think we understand love and we have it down to a T, we may just be fooling ourselves when we think we know enough about love to go look for it. “So then, how is it that you are supposed to let love find you”? By simply being yourself and being ready. Take time to know who you are and figure out what it is that you want. Define the characteristics of the man or woman you see yourself with and be sure that you are the woman or man for him/her. Maybe love has not found you yet, because you are not ready, you don’t know what you want, or maybe you are not the woman for the man you want ( or vice versa). Love is like the cells in our bodies. Every group of cells have a marker that lets other cells know who they are so they can be given permission when to enter or leave different parts of the body as needed. That is how our bodies fight diseases; by noticing that invader cells do not have a known marker hence the foreign cells are engulfed and thrown out of the body by our immune system. Well, look at love the same way. If we have the proper marker that let love know that we are ready, then love will find us and let us in on a relationship. Let’s say somehow you know and feel that you are ready. That may well be true. In that case think of this; maybe your love is not ready to meet you yet. You can be ready, but the man who is to come and love you may be not ready. This is where being patient will come in handy. This is what’s keeping me strong right now besides the fact that I know there are still some small things I need to keep working on.

Let love find you

When I want to humor  and pick myself up when the thoughts I mentioned earlier come to mind, I imagine that my future husband is thinking and writing about me like I am for him. The biggest smile will come not from meeting him only, but in sharing my thoughts and letters with him as proof that I adored and loved him well before I met him! Like some of you, I feel ready. At the same time, I am well aware that maybe he is not quite ready to meet me or for one reason or another it is not time yet. Just because I feel that it is time does not mean that it actually is. My plan is to wait on God and trust in his timing.

Let love find you

Stop concentrating on being alone. Being single does not mean you are alone or that you should be in relationship. Like I mentioned earlier, take some time for yourself and take the preparation that should be taken place inside of you seriously. To be honest, I hardly feel lonely. I have always been a loner so being alone never really bothered me. The reason I feel lonely once in a blue moon now is because I am not naturally a loner. I adopted it as a coping mechanism as a way to deal with past hurt and experiences. Now that I know how to form good, trustworthy relationships with others, being a loner is no longer a part of my personality ( even though I still carry it as a recessive trait). For a period of time, I was single on purpose and remained that way until I felt I was ready to date. I have been single for the majority of my life and have enjoyed it to the fullest. I begin to enjoy it in a more positive way (at first it was because I was afraid to date) when a thought came to my mind that when I am married with children, there are things I will no longer be able to do as a single woman so I need to enjoy them while I can. My favorite thing to do is sit on my couch with a book quietly reading and enjoying the peacefulness of the moment. When I have a husband and children around, I will not be able to do it as much as I want anymore. There will be new things that will become my favorite things to do, like family trips and game nights.

Let love find you

Ladies and gentlemen, be patient. I cannot tell of a time when rushing ever gets anyone anywhere safe. It is difficult and I know that because I am right there along with you. I am also here to tell you that your future husband or wife is worth the wait. You are worth the best! Good wine doesn’t get the name just by waiting in a bottle only for a few days, but patiently for time to manifest its goodness in it.

I am a 26 year-old educator on the run of becoming all that I can in the time that I have. A few years ago, I embarked on a journey filled with spiritual discoveries, healthy habits, and a passion for education stronger than I've ever had. Learning what to do to become a better person have always interest me. One of my passions is to know a little about everything in order to gain the capability of forming my own opinion so others won't have to do it for me. Another passion that was buried deep inside finally came to the surface and allowed me to see the adventurous side of me. I am on a journey to see the world and do things outside of my comfort zone. I will write all about it along the way!

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