I find it imperative to always tell someone how you feel as opposed to suppressing them or avoiding them by binge drinking, partying, sleeping around, etc. The danger of allowing your emotions, feelings, or opinions to build up in you can become cancerous. You start to inherit mood swings, bitterness, and a loss of faith. As a parent, always allow your child to express themselves in order to feel relieved and refreshed. It avoids anger and tantrums. Allowing your child to have a voice builds confidence and a higher self-esteem. It gives them a sense of ground. People just want to be heard and understood from their perspective regardless if you agree or not. Hearing others speak on certain issues or their feelings about what bothers them allows one to feel comfortable and respected. It is very imperative to our well-being, it helps us to be better understood as a person. Suppressed emotions must leak out somehow even if you thought that you got rid of them.
I recall when I latched on my father recently. Everything I held in about how I felt by his inconsistency, lies, and lack of effort finally came out. It came out of nowhere and it came when I just got aggravated by his behavior. It didn’t come out rude or disrespectful, it came from a hurt place. My voice cracked trying to fit everything in a sentence. I just couldn’t pretend any longer. I broke.
That’s what happens when you’ve held so much in; trying to avoid conflict, rejection, or criticism. When you hold it in, you grow depressed. You treat everyone unfairly because of what’s going on inside. With all relationships, it’s not fair. Suppressing feelings, emotions in any relationship shuts down communication that is essential for understanding and fixing! Sometimes you just have to get it out to save what you value. Confront what you feel.