The more I discover my purpose and pursue it, the happier I am. Life is all about making choices, I made the choice to be a better, faithful and happier person. At first, it used to offend me when people who thought they knew me see me now and they say things like, ” something is weird about you”, why are you so this or that”, or my favorite one, ” the Yvette I knew…”. I stopped taking offense to any of those comments once I realized those people never knew me to begin with, at least not as much as they are giving themselves credit for. They all have something to say about who they thought I was; I was mean, distant, and had a look that told people to stay away from me. Who could blame me, at that time period I was alone dealing with grown-up problems as a child ( really). I knew God in a very obscure way and felt that people made it their purpose to come get me, to attack me. Knowing myself now and having memories of the person I used to be, I can see the difference some people see now, but I have more details than they do and I have been through the journey that transformed me to be the person I am now.
A few years ago, I embarked on a journey that led me to various spiritual discoveries, healthy habits, and a more positive outlook on life. Then I was distant, now I am careful with a healthy limit. Then I was mean, now I respect others and know when keep my lips closed. Then I was a loner who did not want anyone around me, now I made healthy friendships with others and actually enjoy the company of most people ( the ones who are encouraging and building me up). I wrote all the then and now statements to show that people can change. Anyone can do anything she puts her mind to. At some point I realized that I was not going down the right path, the one God traced for me to walk on. I made a serious decision to pursue faith, happiness, and peace. I can honestly say that I am happier and I am more at peace with myself now.
As cliché as it may sound, every little thing makes me happy. I am becoming very fond of the small things in life that bring the most amount of joy. Everybody’s happiness is different and the path that leads them there is also very different. If for some reason you know you are not happy and you want to do something about it, here are a few tips I have followed and still am following.
1) Do things that make you happy:
- This may sound easy, but it is truly not as easy as it sounds. A lot of times people do things that make them unhappy either without realizing it [ somehow] or because they don’t think they can stop. If you want to, you will stop once you seriously make the decision to do so. I am a big fan of seating down and evaluating things. Many times, all it takes is you thinking about it. Ask yourself,what really makes you happy? What are you allowing to happen that is keeping you from reaching your desired level of happiness? Answering questions such as these can help you figure out what the real issue is and guide you towards finding solutions. For me, I don’t like when people get angry at me for minuscule reasons and take advantage of me. Therefore, I separate myself from people who would do things to me that threatening my happiness. Slowly, I learned what it is that really makes me happy and what doesn’t. Separating the two is what allows me to find and maintain my happiness.