Why Honesty is more important than trust in a relationship.

Honesty is more important than trust.

The common belief is “without trust you can’t have a relationship” once the trust is broken it’s over.  There is complete truth to that statement, but trust isn’t the most important thing.

I was sitting down at lunch with a few of my friends after church and we started talking about relationships.  “People say trust is more important, but it’s honesty, you have to be honest with your partner and honest with yourself”, one said and another one nodded his head, agreed and added “that’s true, if trust is all it’s based on when it’s broken everything is broken”.  In my head, I added if there’s no room for forgiveness, there’s no room for real love.  It was then I finally understood what my friend meant when he said honesty is more important than trust.
Three reasons why honesty is of more importance than trust:

1) Without honesty the trust isn’t genuine:
Trust is very essential in a relationship, it’s one of the core ingredients that keeps a relationship, but if there’s no honesty the trust can’t be genuine.  Without honesty you can have blind trust.  You trust someone based on what you know, but what you know can be false.  Many people are in relationships where they trust each other, but one of them isn’t “keeping it real”, so they have their partner believing a bunch of lies and trusting in nothing but lies.