Did You Think About This Before You Said “No” to dating broke men?

“He’s broke, so he sucks as a person” – some women are saying and live by this nowadays.  If this idea would be more than an opinion, our world would be horrible.

If you’re a woman with this mindset here’s a few things to think about:

A man’s materialistic possessions do not define him, if it did , there wouldn’t be so many men with money who are a-holes.  Money doesn’t make a man.  A man may make money, but that money will never buy him character.  There are plenty of men out there who are men of quality, respectful, faithful, open-minded, and loving etc. that are struggling in the financial arena. Being broke doesn’t mean that the person is broken…what if someone judged you by the areas in your life you are weak in, how would you feel?

Searching for a man with money makes you a gold digger.  Why is that? Well I understand you need a man who can hold his own, who can provide etc., that is important and you should never settle for a man who will rely on you financially, but the fact that the #1 focus for you when picking a man is whether he can provide or not, raises a red flag.

You fall under the category of women of this age who’s not looking for love, but someone to pay their bills.  Many women brag about that, but I say it’s nothing to brag about. You’re a gold digger because you can’t provide for yourself, so you find men who will prove they’re financially responsible to rely on.  Be more than a woman who uses people.

He’s no good because he won’t buy you expensive gifts and take you out to expensive places; he’s no good because he’s not willing to spend money on someone who he isn’t sure will value his gestures more than the items.  Someone who wont love his money more than him. Some of the men you label as “broke dudes”  that you consider lame, are actually men who aren’t willing to just throw their money away to prove themselves.  Some of them just aren’t interested in your kind.  Some of them aren’t dead broke, they live paycheck to paycheck like most Americans now-days.  Some of the men you try to emasculate by comparing their value to their willingness to buy you are just smart enough not to.

Many great gentlemen I’ve known in my life weren’t necessarily broke, but they didn’t have extreme success financially.  Some of the most arrogant, narcissistic, women degrading, bad mouthing men I’ve met had money.  Not all men with money are bad, but many of them you consider men of quality use their money to buy women out and use them.  They understand a woman who does not understand their worth has a price tag on them.  Women who have a price tag are so materialistic that money can be used as bait to get you anywhere with them.

If you’re looking for love I suggest you consider dating men of quality character, be more open and look beyond the pocket book.   Not all broke men are lame and no good, and not all rich men are gentlemen with morals.  Keep in mind, love conquers all and later on an income of two makes things easier in the household for future purposes, not just one.

Pierre Alex Jeanty is regular guy who sees things different from the majority. He is the founder of Gentlemenhood. A full time blogger, Author, social media specialist, health nut, Certified Life Coach and most importantly a disciple of Christ. Born in Port-au-Prince, Haiti now Alex resides in Lehigh Acres, Florida where he focuses on making a difference in this world.

This article has 7 comments

  1. Lydia

    Could not agree with this more!! Some of the most amazing men I have had the privilege of knowing are “getting by” to make ends meet, and live humbly. Women listen up…these men are GEMS. Don’t overlook their priceless hearts for what might not be in their wallets.

    • admin

      Thank you, glad a woman who went that route can agree. Thank you for being a reader

  2. Jake F.

    Not all rich men has his nose in the air.

  3. Alison

    Some broke men take advantage of you. Use your money to spend on women. Need to be careful.

  4. Pumpkin

    I really can’t get with this article and would love a little feed back. I am a woman that can provide for myself and does not NEED anything from a man. However, that does not mean I don’t want. I think that if I can provide for myself he should be able to do the same. The man is suppose to be the provider in the household. I just can’t see myself with a man that cannot provide. Especially those that are not even seeking employment. Are you saying that these men are dateable? Because I don’t think any broke man should be dating anyone until they can take care of themselves and survive comfortably.

  5. MissyT

    “You fall under the category of women of this age who’s not looking for love, but someone to pay their bills.” –
    No. I’m looking for someone who can pay HIS bills. Currently surviving at the moment without his help. Would like someone who won’t stifle me when I want to eg. take a holiday to Paris because HE can’t afford it. While women don’t mind (would love) being splurged on by their partners, most men have issues when women want to do the same for them.

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