God, I thank you for all of your blessings. You take care of me daily and for that I am forever grateful. God please continue to provide and bless me. Only you know my heart’s greatest desires. I know that I am a good woman and I deserve a good man. God please bring a wonderful man into my life. A man with everything together and well established; a man who can provide for me and give me financial security. God I know that through you all things are possible, and I come to you with an open heart in your son Jesus name AMEN.
How many times have you prayed for God to bless you with your idea of a dream man? How many times have you poured your heart out to him asking him to fill a void in your life with a person that you feel will make everything better? So often we women go to God asking him to exercise his power and bless us with the love of our life, but so often those prayers seem to go unanswered. You may fall in love with a guy and get your heartbroken, or someone may approach you and be the complete opposite of any man you could ever see yourself happy with. At some point you have to stop for a moment and analyze the situation.
It is important to remember that analyzing should start with you. Where are you in life? Are you actively working towards your purpose? Do you know what your purpose is? What are you actually doing other than praying for “Mr. Right”? Now first of all, don’t get me wrong, there is nothing at all wrong with expressing to God the desires of your heart, but it is also important that as a woman you are working towards positioning yourself to be the answer to someone else’s prayers. I mean you are praying for certain great qualities in “him” right? So somewhere there is a guy praying for some great qualities in his “her”. This is something you must keep in mind. Work towards being just as great of a woman as you want your man to be.
Now let’s be real, God works in his own timing. So no matter what we say or do he knows when the timing is right. Meanwhile, life goes on. You have to learn to love and take care of yourself. The last things you want to do is rush what’s meant to be. There are more women having babies and becoming single mothers than getting married and enjoying a loving family. Whether you fall in that category or not, the fact still remains that you have to take care of you and in some cases you and yours. Stop praying for a wealthy put together man and work on putting your pieces together. Work on living up to your potential. Those things provided without being earned from effort and learned through experience so often go unappreciated, and we all know a relationship without genuine appreciation for one another is doomed to failure. Give him something to appreciate. Embrace and appreciate your journey.
You have to be determined each day to continue to become a better woman not just for the future love you may be praying for, but for you present self. Get up and grind for a better life. Work towards getting yourself in a better place. Take care of your priorities. Wanting love is natural, but you need to work towards positioning yourself to where even if you have the man of your dreams, if something happened to him or what he has brought to the relationship, you could still stand on your own and turn around and be his backbone and help him. Don’t just think in the present tense. You need to be thinking about the future, and what goals you plan to achieve because nothing happens by just sitting with a bunch of wishes and big dreams. God helps us, but he steps in and does a greater work when he sees where our hearts are and that we’re trying to help ourselves. A good man deserves a good woman so remember that as you pray. Ask God to help you become a better woman. Ask him to order your steps, and prepare you to step into the greatness you believe he has planned for your life. Good things truly come to those who wait, but not just wait, also work.
If you’re a single mother doing things on your own for the most part, keep your head up and continue to do what you should be doing as a mother. I know sometimes it can and will be hard. Very hard to be exact, but always remember where your strength comes from. Don’t worry so much about what he is or isn’t doing because some things are truly too big for you. When we begin to try to solve problems on our own the enemy comes in and creates unnecessary chaos so leave the situation with God and remain dedicated to providing the best life you can for you and your child. God will bless you with that man who will come in and show you why it never worked with anyone else; someone who can be a strong spiritual head of your household and complement you as a loving example and role model for your child. You just have to keep your faith and continue to shine bright right in the place you’re in, and grow from all of your experiences along the way.
If you’re a woman who has been hurt so much in the past and you’re barely hanging on to hope of a real love, or simply haven’t met a good man and experienced a healthy lasting relationship, be patient. Don’t settle. You deserve genuine love. You also deserve the best of yourself. Your relationship status doesn’t define you or your worth. Love is amazing, but the one thing that makes it so sweet is that you’re giving so much of yourself to someone else as they do the same. Think about that for a minute. “You’re giving so much of yourself…” During this time of singleness, make sure you know who you are. Make sure you know how to make you happy. Take good care of yourself. If you do these things, you will be the answer to the prayer he closes with an “amen”. Remember two good people deserve the best of each other. Work on bringing more to your table, and this will ensure that later on you will bring the best to THE table, as in the table you two will share together.