It’s really not a small matter when you enter a new relationship and although each one teaches us lessons about what not to do we starve ourselves of lessons on what to do. Those lessons are learned best by getting to know ourselves, loving ourselves. So the next time you get that really nervous feeling and get a little choked up when someone asks you what you want or are looking for in a relationship let that be your cue to take things slower so that you can confidently answer that type of question with assurance that it’s not just a response but the response, the response you deserve to give and they deserve to know . Not only do you want to be able to answer in confidence but you want to be able to answer in honesty and that honesty should be something that lays the foundation for growth, real progression and not just being comfortable or choosing to just be in it simply because you don’t like the feeling of being alone. It’s time that we really evaluate who we are as women and men and what we truly want. The good ones often go when we wait too long and we often settle when we don’t want to be alone.